25 Things I’ve Learned in 25 Years
I honestly find it hard to fathom that yesterday was my 25th birthday. As this being a ‘milestone’ birthday (a quarter of a century of existence!), I want to reflect on 25 things I have learned throughout my 25 years.
My life has been… tumultuous, to say the least. I’ve experienced wild things that I would have never expected to have experienced. I’ve also gone through the typical life lessons and happenings, done the rites of passage, etc. Perhaps you’ll see some stories in upcoming blogs.
If my life were depicted in a show, I’d like to believe that you all would be like… ‘wow, what PHENOMENAL character development!’ (But that’s being a lil overly confident, but hey, ya gotta be sometimes.)
25 Things I Have Learned in 25 Years
- My mental illness does not define me. I gotta tell ya, this is something I struggle with and reaffirm every day. It is one hell of a learning process that I’m sure will continue throughout my entire life.
- I am worthy.
- Weight is not the determining factor of my value.
- Never, ever settle.
- Keep a bottle of water in the car after a concert.
- My friends mean everything to me. No matter how much I distance myself out of anxiety/depression, they consistently support me, even after all these years.
- Keep the fangirling to a minimum… you will be so very embarrassed after the fact.
- Live with no regrets.
- Do not deny your past musical interests. You’re just lying to yourself, hunny.
- Do not stay at a job that does not fulfill you, not only mentally, but financially as well. There exists a job out there that will fill you completely. Find it.
- Past failed loves do not dictate future opportunities and does not reflect how future ones will turn out. Do not base thoughts and feelings off of previous ones. Love wholly and passionately. (It’s not like you know any other way.)
- I, myself, can be responsible for sabotaging my happiness and must take responsibility for this accordingly.
- Stage presence has nothing to do with my everyday personality… thank goodness.
- There will be people in your life who are toxic. These people may seem like permanent fixtures. Distance yourself or cut them out entirely.
- You can be happy and exist without a relationship. Do not count on relationships as a sole source of happiness or as a way of feeling whole.
- Planned ignoring not only works on children, but adults as well. Realize when those are negative attention seeking and ignore the shit out of them.
- Even those who you admire and favor can turn out to be terrible people (i.e all the musicians/actors who have been exposed as abusers and pedophiles this past year).
- Tip your server. They are making $3 an hour without tips and survive on tips. With that being said, you can be the best and kindest waitress (or person in general) and still not get tipped because, well, people are entitled assholes.
- Your makeup and eyebrow journey is something of wonders, but god bless they both are slaying it now.
- Know your boundaries, when to say no, and when to push said boundaries to allow yourself to experience something new.
- Be yourself. Not that I have ever changed myself for the sake of another, but it is a shame to see so many other people being inauthentic for likes and praise.
- Speaking of likes and praise, social media has far too much power over happiness and relationships, so dial down the dependency on apps and their validation of your ego.
- It is okay to ask for help. Don’t be a thick-headed dutchman.
- You are at a different place than others your age, and it’s okay! Do not compare your current successes and failures to others. Envy and doubt do not look good on you.
- Living may be so incredibly hard, but do not ever give up. You have made it 25 years and that is an incredible accomplishment.
Here’s to many, many more life lessons to be learned.